Never Stop Dating {At the Zoo}

It’s no secret making time for each other is important and good for your marriage.Never stop dating” is still one of the best pieces of advice we were given during our engagement. Now that we’ve got a little one, we sometimes have a “family date” and include him at times too. A couple weeks ago we spent our day off at the zoo and we had a great time just enjoying each other’s company. We got to listen to Paul talk to the monkeys (he does a great impression), and watch our son explore as I incessantly sang “We’re going to the Zoo”.

I thought about recording myself singing the song, but decided to spare you my tone-deaf version for a much more pleasant & nostalgic version

The zoo may be thought of as a kid’s activity, but we would have enjoyed it just as much going child-free. Anytime we can do something fun or silly together, I’m all over it. Especially when it includes Paul doing his monkey impression – it’s part of how he wooed me. Really, it does not matter so much what we’re doing, just as long as we are having having fun together. I love my wonderful husband and our son, and I love soaking up as many good times with them as possible. As you may have guessed my love language is quality time. Which means I would love to hear about your date ideas. What do you and your fiance(e) enjoy doing together? If you want to share, tell us in the comment box below.

*Carolyn

ps. Thank you to the kind family in front of who snapped the above photo of us on the train.


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May 25, 2012 - 12:50 am

Laura DePasquale - Too Cute! I’m singing “going to the zoo” in my head ๐Ÿ™‚

Monday Marriage Moments {Never Stop Dating: Wedding Planning vs. Dates}

-We love marriage just as much as we love weddings. Take a moment to prepare not just for the wedding, but for the marriage-

“Never stop dating” is one of those great marriage tips I heard when we were engaged. As a matter of fact, it was offered to us as an engaged couple. Because wedding planning is a lot of work, while it is fun, it also can be all consuming. When Paul and I were engaged, it seemed like every time we were together we were doing something for the wedding. Paul’s good friend who had been married for a few years gave him this advice not just for after the wedding but for before too: to make sure that we spent time together without wedding planning. So we did. We tried to balance our time spent together between wedding planning and dates. One great way that we did this was when we set up meetings with vendors, we would go out on a date immediately before or after the meeting. This was not only great because we ensured we were having non-wedding talk, but also because our vendors were not all in our neighborhood so we got to do some exploring. And one of the things Paul and I love to do together is to find new romantic restaurants, places to walk around, and take pictures (of course!) So this was a great opportunity for us to do just that without letting the wedding to-do get too piled up. It was a huge blessing to our relationship and marriage, and one of the ways we chose to invest in and prepare for our marriage.

We took these photos during our engagement on one of theses dates. We went to Paterson Great Falls in Paterson, NJ after we met with our DJ.

Circa 2007.

Now we still take this advice and make sure that we have date nights without talking about “business ” (which does not just mean photography business, but also things like bills, chores, schedules, etc.) –Instead we talk about funny things our son does, the way God is working in our hearts, hopes and dreams for the future, and just joke around and do fun things together. – – We still have meetings and still need time to do work together so while our son is still with loving caregivers we take the opportunity to go out for a date after our time spent working on “wedding planning ” (now for others instead of ourselves!) and it is essentially the same thing – continually dating each other. Life gets busy, heck, life is busy and will be for a long time. So don’t let to-do lists get in the way of the most important relationship in your life. Ferris knows what I’m talking about…

*Carolyn

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Monday Marriage Moments {Contagious Happiness: Laughter}

-We love marriage just as much as we love weddings. Take a moment to prepare not just for the wedding, but for the marriage-

Have you seen this YouTube video (below) that went viral? It’s no surprise that people want to watch a laughing baby, its like contagious happiness. And that same contagious happiness is such a gift in marriage. As I mentioned in a previous MMM post, according to Drs. Les and Leslie Parrot having fun together is one of the best ways to build passion. And I think laughing together is the best – watching our favorite comedian, Brian Regan, watching our son be silly or laughing at ourselves. I can often get super silly, make a fool of myself, and crack myself up, enjoying every minute of it. Other times I need a little help remembering not to take myself too seriously and Paul is great at reminding me. Paul recognizes those moments when I need a little comic relief and knows just what to say to lighten my spirit. It’s awesome, and its one of the things I love about him. Even though, I have to admit my initial response is usually Hey, I’m being serious here. No laughing! but it does not take long to give in to laughter and fun. I’m also impressed by seeing how other couples laugh together. When they tell stories about an argument and they are able to look back in hindsight and just laugh because they easily forgive, move on, and enjoy the silliness of life. Laughter and general happiness is contagious, so go spread it around-ย  especially to your mate!

*Carolyn

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